Relationship Problems – Communicate!

Is your partner being evasive or non-attentive lately? Maybe you are just getting a feeling that they would rather be somewhere else or you can’t quite get your finger on the problem but you know something is just not the same?  This could be a sign that something is wrong with your relationship and it is time for you to take some action to prevent it from getting worse.

Communication is key if you are to figure out why a distance has come between the two of you.   Your partner may not be thinking of ending the relationship, it could be something as simple as being worried about losing their job, finding a job, making more money, or they may even have some health problems that they are reluctant to share with you.   It could be just about anything.   It doesn’t necessarily mean they are getting ready to end the relationship or there is anything wrong with you.  But you must find out what it is before you can fix your relationship and get things back to the way they were when you were happy.

We all get tied up in our busy lives but communication is one area that we can all improve upon.   Statistics have shown that infidelity is not the number one reason couples break up.  On the contrary it is a lack of communication that causes most breakups.  If you can’t or won’t talk to each other neither one of you can fix any problems that may be cropping up in your relationship.

Suspicion creeps into your relationship when you don’t talk to each other.  The reason for the distance between you may be blown up in your mind.  All of a sudden you think one of you is cheating or falling out of love and sometimes that makes one of you do things you would not have done if you had just nipped the situation in the bud by talking to each other from the beginning.   The more you let suspicion grow the harder it will be to talk to each other.

So start talking.   Here is how you go about it so that it is easy and painless:

Ask your partner to meet you somewhere on neutral territory, in a public place. The reason you do this is so that neither one of you feels threatened or trapped.  Neutral territory eases the tension and makes it more likely that the two of you won’t be yelling at each other or creating more animosity.

If you have kids don’t bring them with you. Get someone to watch them.  This meeting has to be between the two of you alone so you can talk freely.

Start out by telling your partner how you are feeling.  Then stop and ask them how they are feeling about the situation.  Listen to your partner.  From here you will have the start of an open conversation and you might both be surprised that the two of you are feeling uncomfortable about your relationship and didn’t realize it.  You both may have thought you were alone in your discomfort.  Once you get this out of the way the ice is broken and you can both talk more in-depth about what is going on.

No matter how you feel or what your partner says do not attack them or accuse them of anything.

Lack of communication is not good for a relationship.   The most successful couples always start with opening the lines of communication when things don’t seem right with their relationship.  The secret to long term loving relationships is to talk to each other.  It sounds so simple and it really is.

So stop letting your imagination run wild.   Start talking to your partner right now.

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