Rebound Relationships Usually Don’t Last!

If your ex is dating someone else and you truly want your ex back then the first thing you must not do is panic! Your ex is just in a rebound relationship. And, ninety-nine percent of rebound relationships don’t last. So, if you really want to get your ex back then read on for some sage advice.

First of all your ex is only dating someone else to try and get over you. Your ex may only be doing it to make you jealous. Don’t fall for this. People fall into rebound relationships in order to avoid dealing with their emotions about their recent break up. It doesn’t mean your ex doesn’t love you – your ex is just using this relationship to help get through this difficult period.

So keep this in mind to comfort you at this time – your ex is only in this relationship to help get over you.  Your ex doesn’t want to get over you – your ex is just confused right now, very emotional and hurting.

It makes no difference if you broke the relationship off or your ex did the breaking up. The important thing to remember, if you want to get your ex back, is that this rebound relationship is just a tool and a tool that is showing you that  your ex actually really loves you. Sounds crazy – but it’s true.

So, if you are sure your relationship has a strong foundation of real love you can save it and get your ex back no matter who your ex is dating.

Right now your ex is in a rebound relationship that is causing him/her to focus on what went wrong with your relationship. This is not a bad thing. Your ex will pick someone who is the opposite of you. This is good because your ex is focusing on the “differences” between the two of you which means that your ex is still focused on you even while with the new person.

You need to take note of the differences too because it probably means your ex is seeking in this new person something that s/he feels was missing in your relationship. You can use this time to make some changes in yourself that s/he will notice and appreciate in you.

Don’t interfere with this rebound relationship. After a month or so (and it may not even take that long) your ex will begin to see what s/he misses in you, because the new guy or girl is not you and can’t begin to replace you.

Here are a few simple things to keep in mind:

• Give your ex some space and time with this rebound relationship

• Let your ex see all the good things s/he is missing without you in his/her life.

• When your ex is ready to come back to you be gracious to your ex.

• Be a “new you” but be slightly aloof – let your ex chase you.

• Don’t try to convince your ex that you are the best thing to ever happen to him/her.
  

• Your ex will discover that you are the best on his/her own.

• If you think you’ve done something wrong to create the split do not apologize profusely.
  

• Just say you are sorry and leave it at that.

• The rebound relationship will show your ex the real reason s/he loves you.

• Don’t make promises to change. You are who you are and that’s who your ex fell in love with.

• Don’t try to make your ex see that it wasn’t your fault. Your ex will discover that on his/her own.

Don’t despair when your ex starts going out with someone just after you break up. S/he is only in a rebound relationship. It’s a sign your ex is still in love with you. You can make up with your ex and get your ex back.