Stages Of A Breakup

A relationship breakup is painful no matter who does the breaking up.  We all go through certain stages or emotional periods in a break up.  We may not go through them in the same order but we go through them.  Even if you were the person who was dumped or you were the person who did the dumping you will still go through them.

It is important to know what these stages are that you are going through because by understanding what is happening you will be able to get through the stages quicker and get on to the road of healing.  Then you can get back finding the relationship that is right for you.

A relationship breakup will usually be some form of the following six steps:

1) Pain.  Even though you are going through an emotional breakup with someone you will actually feel some kind of physical pain too.  It can manifest as an inability to eat.  You may be fatigued.  You might not be able to sleep.  You probably won’t be able to do anything to get yourself physically moving.

2) Denial.  This is a very dangerous step.   You will begin to think that it was a big mistake and your ex will see it and get back together with you.  This stage is one that you must get through very quickly because if you don’t the delusion that a relationship breakup didn’t happen will make it harder for you to move forward and do all the right things to either actually get back with your ex or move on to someone else and get your life back.

3) Anger.  You will suddenly find yourself overwhelmed with anger.  After all how could someone you love and who said they loved you hurt you so much.   Be careful during this stage.  Your anger could cause you to do things you will regret and even worse it may ruin any chance you have to get back with your ex.

4) Bitterness.  Anger can sometimes turn into bitterness.  This is an important stage to move through quickly.  When you are bitter you are unattractive to others.  And, if you hold on to the bitterness you might take it with you into a new relationship and ruin your chances of that relationship having a happy ending.

5) Grieving.  This is a sad time for you to go through but it will pass.  You will begin to think about your ex and all the good times you had.  You will regret things you did and didn’t do.  Maybe you will feel hopeless that you will ever have a relationship like this again.  Don’t despair thought.  You will pass this stage and love again.

6) Acceptance.  You are finally getting to the finish line.  You accept the fact that your relationship is over, but you are stronger now for pass through the relationship breakup stages with thoughtfulness and courage.  This is when you start to feel good again and look forward to a wonderful relationship with someone else.  You know you will find love again.

The more you know about the emotional stages of a relationship breakup and how to deal with them the easier and quicker you can move on from living in the past to a bright new future.  Just make sure you understand that this is all normal and it will get better, just hang in there.

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