Get Your Ex Back – 5 Things To Consider

It’s hard when a break-up happens to think of anything else, but for your own sanity, these five tips will help you in many ways and might just help to get your ex back, if that’s what you decide you really want.

Tip #1: The first tip is to take some time before you act. If tears and frustration or anger and fury are how you are feeling right now, the worst thing you can do is act out these emotions towards your ex. Why? Because acting out these emotions doesn’t show your best side. So, for the next couple of weeks it’s best to take some time and just continue, as best you can, with life.

Tip #2: After you have calmed down and the tears have dried a little, if you feel that you really want to get your ex back then the next step is to get a plan of action.  This plan must be well thought out before you act.  It should be based on what you know about your ex and must be one that he or she will accept or at least listen to.  Part of the plan should include figuring out a time of day and a place where the two of you can meet in comfortable setting so that you can have a heart-to-heart talk.

Tip #3: Before you meet though part of your plan should include writing down exactly what you want to say to your ex.  Try and think very hard and figure out what the real reason was for the break up.  Determine what you can do to improve your half of the relationship. And, just as important, what you feel he or she would need to do to help your being together be a more joyous and healthy relationship.

Example: S/he says you are not emotionally available; that you spend too much time with your friends and not enough time with her/him.  How does that make you feel? Do you like spending time with her/him? Could you make things more enjoyable for the both of you when together? Is s/he being unrealistic in her/his demands? Write this stuff out! Then have a short note card with these points and have it with you; you’ll find it will help you stay on track about how to get your ex back.

Tip #4: Once you have the discussion portion of your plan written out, simply call or write (based on what you think your ex will best respond to) a short request asking for a little of his or her time (be specific!) to talk. Have a watch or access to a clock; you want to say what you have to say…allowing for responses, of course, and then when say, 30 minutes is over…you thank her/him for their time and explain you have an appointment (plans, etc.) and then you ask, “Maybe we can meet again next week?”

Tip #5: Go sit someplace by yourself after your initial meeting. Take inventory of how the time you just spent with your ex made you feel; are you certain you still want to continue to try and get your ex back? Get back to the writing…and make notes of what you are feeling, how s/he made you feel and what you might want to say for your second meeting.

If the response from your ex is one that is not favorable to a second meeting, then the strength of five lions is required to let go and not waste any more time trying to get your ex back. Move on. Life does continue. Besides, you should not want to be in a relationship if your ex does not consider it as important and precious as you do? You deserve better. Now, go find it!